Eldest Immigrant Daughters: My Friendship with Rowa Mohammed

Photo by Jimmy Grace / Hamilton, Ontario / September 2021
Photo by Jimmy Grace
Photo by Jimmy Grace

It was then I learned: my friendship with Rowa wasn’t the standard — it was the exception.

This period of precarity felt like the flooding scene out of Bong-Joon Ho’s Parasite. I was drowning in an effort to survive. My white collar friends were on the path of garden of edens and gated communities. We were operating on different plains of realities. Heternormativity encouraged them to singularize romantic love above communal or familial love — decolonized love.

Alas, we, eldest immigrant daughters, are in a constant state of decision fatigue.

Photo by Jimmy Grace / Hamilton, Ontario / October 2021

“To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients — care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication.” — bell hooks

Indeed, love is a noble practice.

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Sarah Barzak

Sarah Barzak

Born in Milwaukee, raised in Canada, I am Kak Long, an eldest immigrant daughter of Malay-Palestinian descent. Cultural Critic & Producer @sarah.barzak on IG